Hi, I’m Jeremy Elliott, the owner of Positive Resonance. As a spiritual healer and teacher, my mission is to help others transform their lives.
Over the past decade, I have trained in several healing modalities including Reiki, the Universal Healing Dao, and the Melchizedek Method. I am also a certified Shamanic Practitioner. For more information about my healing services, please visit the Services page.
As an author, I write about a variety of spiritual topics with a focus on awakening, ascension, relationships, ancient wisdom, and healing. Please check out my blog for free articles related to spirituality and healing. In addition, I have also published two books about spirituality and healing.
My Journey
I grew up in a religious environment that taught me at a young age about right and wrong. As a result, I was programmed with the ideas of good versus bad, and that being good was rewarded while being bad was punished. It would be well into my adult life before I understood how these beliefs affected my perception of reality. In my own world, I had come to assume that my life circumstances were the result of my good or bad behaviors.
During my teenage years, the sudden divorce of my parents let to an epiphany. I realized that my religious beliefs that I had previously held as truth were in fact simply my own beliefs about how I saw the world. These beliefs were keeping me in a box, although until that point in time I was not even aware that I was in a box. But with this new perspective, I saw that I could choose to step out of the box by seeing those beliefs for what they were: simply a way (and one of many) to view reality.
One thing that fascinated me was that I realized if my parents had not divorced, I might have stayed in “the box” my entire life without realizing that I was ever in one. The fact that I could now see out of the box and not be constrained by it was liberating. And although this left me with not knowing what to believe in, I was not bothered by this for many years.
The Struggle to be Good Enough
Throughout the rest of my adolescence and early adult life, I continued to make decisions based on what I considered to be right or wrong. Even though I had left religion far behind, my morals were firmly based on the values that I had been taught in childhood. What I didn’t take into consideration was that how I judged my actions led me to place judgements on myself that would greatly impact my life.
By judging some actions as bad, I was accusing myself as not being “good enough.” And since I could not value myself, I turned to the world to compensate for my own lack of self-worth and self-love. Thus began my journey of using the outside world for validation of my goodness.
During my high school years, I tried my hardest to be someone who was worthy of my parents’ love. My grades in school were excellent, and I eventually graduated as valedictorian. I was the top lineman on my football team, and I also won the region championship in wrestling. But at the state wrestling tournament, things did not go “according to plan.”
Instead of placing in the state tournament as expected, I lost 2 extremely close matches that dropped me out of medal contention. Emotionally and psychologically, I was devastated. From my perspective at that time, my failure in the tournament was a sign that I was a failure. Regardless of the amount of effort that I had invested in winning, I simply wasn’t “good enough.”
After graduating college, I fell in love and got married. The relationship provided just what I needed (or thought I needed): validation that I was indeed lovable. Little did I understand that I had simply switched from using my parents for validation to using my wife for validation. During the many years to come, I would also fail to realize that virtually all problems in the relationship were due to me trying using my partner for providing what I was responsible for giving myself.
My Spiritual Journey Begins
In my early 20’s, my brother-in-law (who was 23 years old at the time) tragically died in a house fire. For me, this was another trigger moment that had me questioning life. All of a sudden, I wanted to understand what life was all about and what was the purpose. This intense curiosity was the start of my spiritual journey.
In my search for answers, I started reading a lot of spiritual literature. It started with books on near-death experiences (such as by Raymond Moody); from there I was reading about “life between lives” books by Brian Weiss. One author mentioned meditation, so I bought a book that taught meditation and started practicing. Later I discovered yoga and tai chi, which became part of my practice for a while. Over the years, I covered a vast variety of topics, from sacred geometry and ascension, to astrology, symbolism, spiritual healing, Buddhism, and much more.
In the meantime, I noticed that I was personally becoming more irritable, angry and depressed. Something wasn’t right about my life, but I didn’t know what to do about it. At this time, I had been working an office job for many years and I no longer gained any satisfaction from what I was doing. Instead, what used to be interesting and exciting had become routine, stressful, and unfulfilling.
Somehow, I found the website of a local healer who was offering “spiritual counseling” sessions. Intrigued, I booked a session and went for a visit. After explaining my situation, this healer connected to my guides, who suggested I should think about getting into energy healing. Immediately, something inside me said: “Yes, this is it!”
For the first time in a long time, I felt excited. My intuition was telling me that this was exactly what I needed to do. And I was determined to follow through. By “chance,” I ran into an exhibition for an energy healing school at a local Natural Living Fair and decided to sign up.
My intention was to transition as quickly as possible as I could no longer tolerate my current employment. And although I had the best intentions, I didn’t take into consideration that I was not yet ready. In short: to be a healer, I first needed to heal myself.
Hitting “Rock Bottom”
My wife did not agree with me quitting my job and she threatened to divorce me if I did so. But I stubbornly refused to be persuaded as I felt hat she was attempting to stand in between me and my future happiness. I also didn’t believe that she was serious, but it turned out that I was mistaken.
After a quitting my job, my wife quickly filed for divorce. From a spiritual perspective, the relationship no longer served me, and it was time to let it go. But from a psychological perspective, I had based my entire self-worth on the existence of the relationship. Thus, the end of the relationship had serious consequences.
Instead of moving forward in the direction of my dream career, my life was completely shattered. With no relationship and no job, it felt like my life was over. I quickly fell into depression and became suicidal.
The emotional pain went on for months. In the beginning, I had hoped that maybe something miraculous would happen to turn my life around. But after a while, the realization hit me that the hero I was waiting for was myself. Essentially, I had dug myself into a deep hole, and the only way to escape was for me to crawl out of it. In other words: if I wanted to heal myself, I had to learn how to stop using others and to start using myself. I had to learn to love myself.
Setting Myself Free
In order to make progress, I had to stop thinking about the enormity of the task ahead and instead focus on what I could do in that moment. “One day at a time” was the motto that I lived by. The process was not weeks or months but years. But gradually, I got back on my feet, found a new job, and new relationship, and a reason to live. Most, importantly, I started to value who I am and not care what others think about me.
I am now also comfortable with the understanding that the healing journey is a life-long affair, and I am comfortable with letting it take its course. I no longer feel the need to speed up my journey and get to some particular level, but instead I am now more able to flow freely in each moment of life with love, joy and gratitude.
If I had to suggest one secret to healing, it would be: “Always focus on yourself.” No matter what is going on in the external world, it won’t matter if you soul is dancing. When you have love in your heart, you can love the world unconditionally. And this is the condition that everyone is seeking whether they realize it or not: the freedom and joy to love fearlessly and unapologetically. This joy of being yourself, loving yourself, and sharing your true self with others is the key that will set you free.
My Healing Philosophy
Each of us are responsible for our own healing journeys, but a healer can temporarily be a guide to support us in the process. Ultimately, the role of the healer is to help each individual learn how to become their own guide and healer. The techniques that I employ are used to help you clear what is no longer serving you in a safe and supportive environment. This will allow you to establish a deep connection with your own internal guidance in order to reach new levels of healing on your own. Eventually, you will then be in a position to heal others based on your own personal experiences and wisdom gained.
If you would like to work with me, please check out my offerings on the Healing Services page.